tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881032063992074880.post1864791645720815558..comments2023-12-15T05:59:04.119-08:00Comments on Babble, Fluff, and Other Mumly Stuff: The Mompetition and Momparison GameAmanda C.http://www.blogger.com/profile/04309988844696581683noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881032063992074880.post-45936650091260864222013-04-25T14:09:05.808-07:002013-04-25T14:09:05.808-07:00Hah. :) Sometimes I think I cosleep just because ...Hah. :) Sometimes I think I cosleep just because I can't breastfeed, so I can say "at least I'm doing THAT!" Though recently, Ebba has been preferring her crib (and by prefer, I mean she wakes up about 1/4 as much when she sleeps in there), so we're usually only cosleeping the second half of the night. :)Amanda C.https://www.blogger.com/profile/04309988844696581683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881032063992074880.post-16414633134103766152013-04-22T08:02:57.931-07:002013-04-22T08:02:57.931-07:00And, btw, I am happy I was "forced" not ...And, btw, I am happy I was "forced" not to co-sleep. I would be a horrible co-sleeper! :) When it comes to sleep, I think families just have to do what works best for them, in their current situation. My example of my desire to co-sleep because you did it was just an example of how easily influenced I can be. :) Esp. when that influence comes from someone I admire. xx<br /><br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12340323809461914704noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4881032063992074880.post-46089766455797394022013-04-22T07:57:41.891-07:002013-04-22T07:57:41.891-07:00Great post, Amanda. And, yes, i totally agree...mo...Great post, Amanda. And, yes, i totally agree...mompetition, boo! Interestingly, though, I think sometimes, I secretly compare myself to other moms, like you with the co-sleeping, so I can tell myself, "Ok, you are doing X and you are doing it well!" I need to tell myself this, and some measure (via cokparison), so that I can cope with the Y, Z, and Q (I don't know why 'Q'!) that I feel I am NOT doing, or not doing well, or well ENOUGH. And that is when the comparison backfires on me. :) Like, I never thought co-sleeping was a good idea. until you did it. And then I thought, "Hmmm...maybe it isn't so nuts after all! Maybe she loves her baby more than I love mine! Maybe my children will not love me or feel secure enough because I chose never to co-sleep, and not only that, but to do....(gasp) CIO!" :) Anyways, my point is, I never wanted to co-sleep, out of choice, until I saw someone else doing it, and then i wanted to do it, because I couldn't. And, as we all can admit to, we sometimes want what we cannot have. I am sooo guilty of that. <br /><br />I do like your comment re. stregth being more about not getting what you want and moving on. :)<br /><br />And, CORRECTION: Born by C-section AND not breastfed! (Maybe this is where my need for birth goddess/motherly perfection stems from...??) And I am relatively normal....most of the time....:)<br /><br />But, that goes to show, it is about LOVING your kids. And modelling for them. Strength. Courage. Wisdom. Patience. Forgiveness. Empathy. And you have those qualities in spades.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12340323809461914704noreply@blogger.com